It is reported that a man came
to the Prophet and asked:
"Messenger of Allah, who is the
most deserving of good care from me?" The Prophet replied: "Your
mother (which he repeated three times) then your father, then your
nearest relatives in order".
In another hadith the
Prophet has said: "Paradise lies at the feet of mothers". In other
words Paradise awaits those who cherish and respect their
mothers.
Apart from her role as a wife,
the Muslim woman has a very important role as mother. The status
and value attached to parents in the Muslim world is very high.
The Qur'an says:
"Your Lord has decreed that
you should worship nothing except Him, and (show) kindness to
your parents, whether one or both of them attain old age (while
they are) still with you, never say to them a word of contempt
nor scold them. Address them in a generous fashion. And out of
kindness, stay before them with humility and say: 'My Lord, show
them mercy, just as they cared for me in my childhood' "
(17:23-24).
Again Allah says:
"We have enjoined man to
respect his parents; his mother bears him with fainting after
fainting, while his weaning takes two years. Thank Me as well as
your parents; towards Me lies the goal" (The Qur'an
31:14)
The Muslim mother has
consequently a great feeling of security about the type of care
and consideration she can expect from her children when she
reaches old age. As the verse of the Qur'~ n quoted above
indicates, thankfulness to parents is linked with thankfulness to
Allah, and a failure in either of these respects is indeed a major
failure in one's religious duties.
The principles of Islam made
explicit in the Qur'an and hadith are belief and good
conduct, and good conduct begins at home with one's closest
relatives. A Westerner who has had close contact with a Muslim
society cannot fail to be struck by the love and respect given to
parents and the honour shown to old people in general, both men
and women, as a direct application of these principles of
Islam.