The terms of desire and the erection are often associated and confused. However, sexual failures
are not necessarily linked to a lack of desire.
In contrast, treatment of erectile disfunction do not allow the economy of desire.
Some tips to help make the difference.
If a man has erectile disfunction, it is likely that he does not want to expose himself to
failure and therefore, inhibits its desire.However, this does not mean he rejects her partner or
that he finds more attractive. In contrast, inducers of erections are not triggers an erection
and these drugs only work if there is desire. Discover the close links between desire and
erection, too often confused.
The desire to pleasure
According ADIRS, "sexual desire is the ability to positively consider sexual activity and to
trigger sexual arousal. It covers both the desire to make love with her partner but also the
fact of have erotic thoughts spontaneously.
Thus, the lack of desire is not necessarily linked to the partner because the desire is a
personal capacity.It is also possible to experience desire and not having an erection.
Alain HERIL, sex therapist,explains
"We may have no desire that the body responds this! This is not very common because usually
when there is desire, erection will be even if it is not satisfactory or if it does not last because of
a problem for example premature ejaculation.
Physical and psychological causes
Erectile dysfunction may be due to either a medication (in cases of hypertension in particular),
or a situation of stress leading to physical fatigue.
You can also find this situation in elderly patients who have prostate problems or venous
circulation difficulties. It should be noted that the drug can cause an inability to erect even
when very strong desire.
In a more psychological, the erectile disfunction may be related to a fear of sex:
"The head said 'yes' and body' no 'because there is planning forbidden concepts
(a married man and his master) or a blockage in children who at the time of the update through"
continued Alain HERIL.
How to reconcile desire and impotence? Normally, this happens naturally.
It is a "mechanism" in male sexuality. If this is difficult, it is good to trust your
fantasies, do not hesitate to mention them, to the project internally in the form of exciting
visualizations.The fantasy is the driving force of desire!
How and by whom to get help
If the problem persists or tends to return, it may be necessary to get help.
Some consultation with a sex therapist should solve the problem.
But therapistis should be natural interlocutor.
This will remove all functional problems .
Depending on the problem, it may if necessary refer you to a specialist
(urologist, andrologist, sex ...).
The doctors are now better equipped to treat erectile dysfunction, due to new inducers
of erection.
The drugs do not replace the desire
"It does not need me to be desired with the medicine!".Some women are troubled by the emergence
of a drug in the privacy of a couple. But these reactions are primarily due to lack of
action of inducers of erection of the class of inhibitors of phosphodiesterase-5 (Cialis ®, Viagra ®, Levitra ® ...).
These drugs do not command on erections, Only a context of sexual arousal, complicity with the
partner and provides mutual desire to achieve an erection.
The erection is not synonymous with desire and in this case, the drug is only a technical aid,
a crutch to realize a desire.
Other women fear becoming the object of their insatiable companion fantasies ... No fear,
inducers of erections have no action in the brain. The drug should not affect the sexual appetite,
it simply give substance to his desire.
Some tips in case of erectile dysfunction
Here are some tips to find a satisfactory erection:
First round, do not dramatize the situation, it is important to relax as the erection requires
mental tranquility to develop fully.
Choose the preliminaries allowing the erection to come by taking its time.
"You can also practice masturbation to learn to control your body and your desire because
sometimes a too strong desire can prevent the erection," says Alain HERIL.
Also trust your partner to help to put things.
Save the game and laughing in her sexuality is a good way to trigger the desire ... and the
erection.
Finally, solutions are available today to treat erectile dysfunction.
We must dare to consult one or a couple to enjoy.
Today, health professionals are better trained to address the issue and provide appropriate
treatment. So no more suffer in silence.
Sources:
Alain HERIL Psychotherapist/sex therapist author of the book "The continents female"
Editions Jean-Claude Gawsewitch
ADIRS, Association for the development of information and research on sexuality: